It was late that summer Friday evening. The sun had just crossed the horizon, changing the sky from blood orange red to a deeper indigo. Having put in 9000 yards, half of which were back-to-back sprints, we finally wrapped up our 2-hour practice, exhausted and slightly bewildered.
‘Twas our new coach’s first day on the job. We were expecting a chill practice, but this stranger made us work for it. And he did not beat around the bush. Relentless. In sum, he was the Gordon Ramsay of swimming.
Needless to say, he didn’t make the best impression on the team. And it was fair to say that some of my teammates were not his biggest fans. As they all shuffled out, and I had to wait for my parents to come pick me up from practice, I helped Coach with pulling the tarp covers over the pool.
Breaking the silence, he asks, “David, d’ya like to swim?”
“Of course,” I reflexively reply.
“Why d’ya like it?”
“It’s fun. I made friends. It helps me de-stress.”
“No.” And his next few words changed my perspective forever – both in swimming and in life. “You like to swim because you’ve won.”
Showing Gratitude
Obviously, in my prepubescent self, I took my coach’s comment for its face value. I like to swim because I’m good at it. Or at least, relatively speaking among my peers at that point in time. But as I grew older, that comment resonated with me on a different wavelength.
And a conversation with world-class hustler and founder of Fleeting (a company changing the landscape of trucking), Pierre*, last Friday reminded me exactly why. What I said then about why I liked to swim wasn’t completely wrong. I was able to achieve a moderate amount of success in the sport because my parents, coaches, teammates, and other friends supported and cheered for me. But I also forgot to thank one more for my accomplishments. The system itself.
*You can catch a glimpse of Pierre’s amazing story on Gimlet Media’s The Pitch.
The System
The system itself, included:
- Rules,
- Privilege of having access to swimming pools,
- Privilege of having access to coaches and supportive and ambitious teammates,
- And, the seemingly minor technicalities,
- My lane’s timers had faster reaction times compared to my competitor’s lane’s timers. For context, in regional meets, each lane would always have 3 timers each to record when you touched the wall on your finish, and they would take the median time as the final result.
- My lane’s touchpad was working, but my competitor(s) may have had to rely on manual timers since their touchpad didn’t work. So, when it came down to close races and who touched the wall first, I would win.
Of course, there were moments I was a victim to said system as well. And I remember those moments far better than when I won as a result of the system.
So what?
The thing is, when everything is going my way, I often take it all for granted. One of the only times I realize and realized that there might be any flaws to the system are when I am left out. I have been and am a member of society that has profited from the systems – in swimming, in higher education, in work opportunities, just to name a few. And I’m sure there are even more I have yet to realize that I have benefited from.
The past few weeks have been a wake-up call to America, to the world, and to myself for what we have all let pass without questioning. And admittedly, it may be difficult to assess what explicit and implicit biases we have when we, in the words of Coach, are “winning”.
Diversity at the Table
So, it comes down to two fronts: internally and externally.
Internally, introspectively, let’s ask ourselves:
- What have we won as a result of? And, what are we still winning in?
- What have we benefited or profited from?
And just as there are winners, there exist still who have yet to win. Or win in a more consistent manner.
Externally, we need to bring into the fold those who have yet to win to help us assess what systemic flaws exist in our status quo. Frankly, it’s incredibly difficult to find our implicit biases alone. I know that I’ve been reminded multiple times in my life by those who are more cognizant in those arenas than I was and have been. And, those underrepresented and underestimated by the system can use all the help they can get.
Together, I’m confident we can find a better solution.
Photo by Marcelo Uva on Unsplash
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