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A Jerk’s Guide to Being Kind

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First off, my lizard brain that optimizes for immediate gratification thought “A Jerk’s Guide to Being Kind” would be a fun title. Clickbait-y (kinda). Great for SEO. So I used that as my prompt for this public journal entry. 🙂

So, if you didn’t come for a public apology and how I say no, I’ll see you in next week’s blogpost.

Secondly, I was reading Chris Neumann’s blogpost this week, aptly named “The Beginner VC’s Guide to Not Being a Jerk.” And realized, holy frick, I’m a jerk. In it, he describes five things that VCs do that come off as jerkish.

  1. Don’t Use Possessive Adjectives
  2. Don’t Multitask When a Founder is Pitching
  3. Don’t Badmouth Founders
  4. Don’t Mansplain
  5. Don’t Ghost Founders

And of the five above, I know I’m an offender of three of the above. Using possessive adjectives. Multitasking. Ghosting. Probably in that order from most frequent to least frequent. (Sorry, Chris. Sorry to founders I’ve done this to.) The first two I don’t do intentionally, nor do I do the either of them often.

Not sure if it makes too much of a difference, but rather than say “my company” or “our companies,” I do say “our portfolio companies.” Just with one extra word in there. Occasionally, will let it slip when I’m trying to shorten the sentence I’m saying.

I know I’m more prone to multi-task when I’m not the only investor in the room, and definitely when I’m not the primary investor. Again, don’t do it often, but it happens. And I never do so when I’m the only other person in that conversation. 99% of the time I do let the founders and GPs I talk to know that I’m just taking notes of our conversation. Personally don’t use the AI notetakers, but that’s a discussion for another day.

And ghosting. My goal is to get to inbox zero every day. And I really do my best not to ghost. But three things will always happen:

  1. Some email or text always ends up slipping through my inbox. Either it goes in spam, or during certain days, I’m bombarded with hundreds of emails and it slips through the cracks. And I do give every founder and GP who pitch me the right to re-surface past emails if it does slip through.
  2. If the email or message seems like it came out of an automation or mail merge AND I’m not interested, I do let it drop. I read EVERY email for sure. But if that email looks like the same one that you send to every investor, those have been going straight into the archives more and more. That also means that some emails just read like it’s an automated email even if it doesn’t, and it slips through.
  3. There’s a shortlist of people who have abused my old personal policy of responding to every email I get. And so for those people, I’m not sorry if I do ghost you. That said, it’s a pretty short list of people (probably 30-40 people as of now).

And lastly, well, I’ve made founders pitching me cry. Not something to brag about. But in sharing what I thought was honest feedback, I made tears flow.

So, in summary, I’m probably a jerk.

In my mind, a jerk is someone who prioritizes their own beliefs and priorities to the point that they either intentionally ignore or severely de-prioritize others’. Although I try my best not to ignore what other might want or need, but I do often prioritize my own. So to add on to all the above, I’m sharing some situations where my jerkiness comes out and what I say in those moments.

When having tough conversations

I actually learned this while listening to Lenny’s podcast with Matt Mochary. When I need to let someone go. When I need to call a friend out on their bad behavior. Or when my partner and I get into a fight. “Preface hard conversations with: This is going to be a difficult conversation. Are you ready?”

In addition, I also preface with how long I think the discussion will take. “May I have thirty minutes of your undivided attention?” And what the topic will be on. No point in blindsiding the other person.

It helps set the stage. And if the other person needs more time, they have the option to back out. Moreover, all tough conversations are 1:1 conversations. At least for me, even if it relates to many, I start notifying them all on a 1:1 basis.

When trying to leave a conversation at an event

This one also isn’t original. I learnt from a friend of mine who is far more eloquent than I am. Not all conversations at events are created equal. And sometimes, at an event, especially a networking event, my goal is to say hi to the event host or to talk to someone else on the floor. And in between, I may find myself in another serendipitous. Case in point, yesterday, I ended up meeting a founder who sold his last company for $500M exit to a large Fortune 50 company in the parking lot and who was figuring out his next thing. Serendipitous. And super fun, but I was going to be royally late for another event if I stayed chatting in the parking lot.

So, when I need to leave a conversation, instead of excusing myself to go to the bathroom or get more food, I’ve learned to say, “I’d love to ask you one last thing that I’d beat myself up tonight if I didn’t ask before I need to go say hi to XXX.”

One, it timeboxes the next few minutes of the conversation. Two, I’m still interested in the individual and I want them to get the last word before I head out.

For 1:1 conversations

I usually let people know at the very beginning of the conversation that I have a “hard stop” at a specific time. Which 90% of the time is true. Usually another meeting. Or I have just way too much work on my plate that I need to get to.

When turning down a meeting (for now)

I wish I had more time in a day to talk to awesome people. I also wish I had more energy in a day to talk to awesome people. But unfortunately, I only have 24 hours in a day. And well, I’m an introvert. As in, I enjoy writing this blogpost you’re reading right now since 5AM in the morning than telling someone in a live conversation what I will end up writing here.

As such, if I’m interested in meeting at some point, I usually say something to the tune of: “I would love to meet, but if I do so within the next XXX weeks / months, I would have failed in my promise to the people I care about. So if you’ll allow me to be a good friend / family member / supporter of my existing projects and investments, could we revisit this in YYY weeks / months?”

Other times to save everyone’s time, since I won’t find my interest levels gravitating towards said topic, I let people know it just isn’t of interest to me in the foreseeable future, and that their luck may be better elsewhere.

When turning down an investment opportunity

This is actually something that was inspired by one of Jason Calacanis’ podcast episodes. And while there are many things I may not agree with him on, I really like the phrasing he uses to turn down founders who push back against his investment decision. And I’ve added some lines that best fit the way I talk. Which I also included this in my 99 series for investors.

“I always have to accept the possibility that I’m making a mistake. The venture business keeps me humble, but these are the benchmarks that the team and I all believe in.”

In closing

Sometimes I think it’s inevitable to appear as a jerk to some people out there. While one can try to reduce the splash damage, the truth is sometimes what you have to say may not be what the other person wants to hear or see. But as long as you hold yourself to a high degree of integrity and do so in as kind of a way as you can, I think that’s all that really matters.

Often times, I do believe it’s more important to be kind than nice. I hope the above helps.

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The Proliferation of LP Podcasts

I am under no illusion that there is a hell of a lot of interest in the LP landscape today. Not only from GPs who are realizing the difficulties of the fundraising climate, but also from aspiring and emerging LPs who are allocating to venture for the first time. The latter of which also have a growing set of interests in backing emerging GPs. And in the center console in this Venn diagram of interests lies the education of how to think like an LP.

I still remember back in 2022 and prior, we had Beezer’s #OpenLP initiative, Ted Seides’ Capital Allocators podcast, Notation Capital’s Origins, and Chris Douvos’ SuperLP.com. Last of which, by the way, can we start a petition to have Chris Douvos write more again? But I digress. All four of which trendsetters in their own right. But the world had yet to catch storm. Or maybe, the people around me and I had yet to feel the acceleration of interest.

Today, in 2024, we have:

There is no shortage of content. LPs are also starting to make their rounds. You’ll often see the same LP on multiple podcasts. And that’s not a bad thing. In fact, that’s very much of a good thing that we’re starting to see a lot more visibility here and that LPs are willing to share.

But we’re at the beginning of a crossroads.

A few years back, the world was starved of LP content. And content creators and aggregators like Beezer, Ted, Nick, and Chris, were oases in the desert for those searching. Today, we have a buffet of options. Many of which share listenership and viewership. In fact, a burgeoning cohort of LPs are also doing their rounds. And that’s a good thing. It’s more surface area for people to learn.

But at some point, the wealth of information leads to the poverty of attention. The question goes from “Where do I tune into LP content?” to “If I were to listen to the same LP, which platform would I choose to tune into?“

After all, we only have 24 hours in a day. A third for sleep. A third for work. And the last competes against every possible option that gives us joy — friends, hangouts, Netflix, YouTube, hobbies, exercise, passion projects and more.

In the same way, Robert Downey Jr. or Emma Stone or Timothée Chamalet (yes, I just watched Dune 2 and I loved it) is going to do multiple interviews. With 20, 30, even 50 different hosts. But as a fan (excluding die-hard ones), you’re likely not going to watch all of them. But you’ll select a small handful — two or three — to watch. And that choice will largely be influenced by which interviewer and their respective style you like.

While my goal is to always surface new content instead of remixes of old, there will always be the inevitability of cross-pollination of lessons between content creators. And so, if nothing else, my goal is to keep my identity — and as such, my style — as I continue recording LP content. To me, that’s the human behind the money behind the VC money. And each person — their life story, the way they think, why they think the way they think — is absolutely fascinating.

In closing

There’s this great Amos Tversky line I recently stumbled upon. “You waste years by not being able to waste hours.” And in many ways, this blog, Superclusters, writing at large, and my smaller experiments are the proving grounds I need to find my interest-expertise fit. Some prove to be fleeting passions. Others, like building for emerging LPs, prove to be much more.

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Two Types of Investments

Last week, I wrote an essay about the importance of brand-building for a VC. In it, I reference Fred Destin’s tweet. This post is more or less of a part 2 to the notion of “picking” versus “getting picked”.

As an early-stage investor, and even more so as a scout, where it is my job to qualify leads at the top of the funnel, there are 2 types of investments:

  1. Founders you pick
  2. And founders who pick (you)

The former is in order to build your brand. The latter is a result of the brand you built.

So for some additional context, in the last two days, I just had to ask a few investors who dance around this phenomenon and have a track record for winning outsized returns.

What I learned

In my email conversations with them, here’s what I learned:

On picking:

  • “Picking startups” is thesis-driven. “Getting picked” is value-driven. It’s not mutually exclusive. In fact, in many cases, it’s symbiotic.
  • “Picking” startups, especially at the earlier stages (i.e. pre-seed, seed), often comes down to if you can get conviction faster than anyone else.
  • The earlier the stage an investor invests in, the more likely he/she will focus on “picking” the founders. For instance, angels, pre-seed, and seed investors.
  • If an investor typically leads rounds, they are more likely to be “picking” as well.
  • Markets also matter. If the startups exist in a new market or are attempting to create that market, investors also spend more time “picking”.

On getting picked:

  • In situations where investors “get picked” and founders have leverage, valuations end up skyrocketing with larger rounds and less dilution. In effect, may misalign incentives between founder and investor.
  • For many, it’s a dichotomy they might reflect on when doing fund and deal flow analysis, but not as a pre-meditated approach.
  • For non-lead investors (i.e. angels, rolling funds, etc.), many of whom don’t have a huge brand yet, there is incredible value in empathy and operating experience, which often give you an edge over traditional VCs. Especially since you can’t compete with their check sizes.
  • To “get picked”, build relationships before founders need to raise. Be high-value, actionable, and timely. Hustle like the founders do.
  • Be differentiated. If you have the same thesis/brand/network as every other VC out there, you will just be another number, but never THE number – the signal for a founder among the noise. You don’t have to be unique on every variable (thesis, brand, network, operating experience, etc.), but you have to be stellar and unique in at least one.
  • Help founders with their “firsts” – first hire, first fire, first fundraise, etc. So that you will be the first fund they think of when they raise/need help.

Finding meaning in investments

If I could paraphrase the words of Keith Rabois of Founders Fund in his recent conversation with Jason Calacanis, picking and getting picked analogizes to:

  1. Investment you took a bet on when everyone else turned in the other direction
    • Where “your decision to invest in the company made a meaningful difference in their potential”.
  2. Investment where the company was going to get funded regardless of your investment, but your advice, resources and/or network sped up the escape velocity of that startup in a meaningful way

Keith was early into Airbnb, Palantir, and Wish, when others were doubtful on the product thesis. And it contrasted with his rationale to invest in Max Levchin‘s Affirm. He elaborates on the pod that Max might have gotten larger checks on better terms than he did with Keith. But Max chose Keith for the value Keith could bring to the table.

In closing

As Miami Heat’s Hall of Famer Pat Riley once said, “When you leave it to chance, then all of a sudden you don’t have any more luck.” Investing is all about being intentional. Whether an investor “picks” or “gets picked”, they set themselves for opportunity. In the words of Seneca, “luck is where opportunity meets preparation.” Preparation being the keyword. And for a VC, that includes:

  • A robust network (deal flow + potential hires + potential startup customers/partners + downstream investors),
  • Brand (network + content + knowledge/experience + track record),
  • Resources,
  • And a thesis.

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