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A Jerk’s Guide to Being Kind

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First off, my lizard brain that optimizes for immediate gratification thought “A Jerk’s Guide to Being Kind” would be a fun title. Clickbait-y (kinda). Great for SEO. So I used that as my prompt for this public journal entry. 🙂

So, if you didn’t come for a public apology and how I say no, I’ll see you in next week’s blogpost.

Secondly, I was reading Chris Neumann’s blogpost this week, aptly named “The Beginner VC’s Guide to Not Being a Jerk.” And realized, holy frick, I’m a jerk. In it, he describes five things that VCs do that come off as jerkish.

  1. Don’t Use Possessive Adjectives
  2. Don’t Multitask When a Founder is Pitching
  3. Don’t Badmouth Founders
  4. Don’t Mansplain
  5. Don’t Ghost Founders

And of the five above, I know I’m an offender of three of the above. Using possessive adjectives. Multitasking. Ghosting. Probably in that order from most frequent to least frequent. (Sorry, Chris. Sorry to founders I’ve done this to.) The first two I don’t do intentionally, nor do I do the either of them often.

Not sure if it makes too much of a difference, but rather than say “my company” or “our companies,” I do say “our portfolio companies.” Just with one extra word in there. Occasionally, will let it slip when I’m trying to shorten the sentence I’m saying.

I know I’m more prone to multi-task when I’m not the only investor in the room, and definitely when I’m not the primary investor. Again, don’t do it often, but it happens. And I never do so when I’m the only other person in that conversation. 99% of the time I do let the founders and GPs I talk to know that I’m just taking notes of our conversation. Personally don’t use the AI notetakers, but that’s a discussion for another day.

And ghosting. My goal is to get to inbox zero every day. And I really do my best not to ghost. But three things will always happen:

  1. Some email or text always ends up slipping through my inbox. Either it goes in spam, or during certain days, I’m bombarded with hundreds of emails and it slips through the cracks. And I do give every founder and GP who pitch me the right to re-surface past emails if it does slip through.
  2. If the email or message seems like it came out of an automation or mail merge AND I’m not interested, I do let it drop. I read EVERY email for sure. But if that email looks like the same one that you send to every investor, those have been going straight into the archives more and more. That also means that some emails just read like it’s an automated email even if it doesn’t, and it slips through.
  3. There’s a shortlist of people who have abused my old personal policy of responding to every email I get. And so for those people, I’m not sorry if I do ghost you. That said, it’s a pretty short list of people (probably 30-40 people as of now).

And lastly, well, I’ve made founders pitching me cry. Not something to brag about. But in sharing what I thought was honest feedback, I made tears flow.

So, in summary, I’m probably a jerk.

In my mind, a jerk is someone who prioritizes their own beliefs and priorities to the point that they either intentionally ignore or severely de-prioritize others’. Although I try my best not to ignore what other might want or need, but I do often prioritize my own. So to add on to all the above, I’m sharing some situations where my jerkiness comes out and what I say in those moments.

When having tough conversations

I actually learned this while listening to Lenny’s podcast with Matt Mochary. When I need to let someone go. When I need to call a friend out on their bad behavior. Or when my partner and I get into a fight. “Preface hard conversations with: This is going to be a difficult conversation. Are you ready?”

In addition, I also preface with how long I think the discussion will take. “May I have thirty minutes of your undivided attention?” And what the topic will be on. No point in blindsiding the other person.

It helps set the stage. And if the other person needs more time, they have the option to back out. Moreover, all tough conversations are 1:1 conversations. At least for me, even if it relates to many, I start notifying them all on a 1:1 basis.

When trying to leave a conversation at an event

This one also isn’t original. I learnt from a friend of mine who is far more eloquent than I am. Not all conversations at events are created equal. And sometimes, at an event, especially a networking event, my goal is to say hi to the event host or to talk to someone else on the floor. And in between, I may find myself in another serendipitous. Case in point, yesterday, I ended up meeting a founder who sold his last company for $500M exit to a large Fortune 50 company in the parking lot and who was figuring out his next thing. Serendipitous. And super fun, but I was going to be royally late for another event if I stayed chatting in the parking lot.

So, when I need to leave a conversation, instead of excusing myself to go to the bathroom or get more food, I’ve learned to say, “I’d love to ask you one last thing that I’d beat myself up tonight if I didn’t ask before I need to go say hi to XXX.”

One, it timeboxes the next few minutes of the conversation. Two, I’m still interested in the individual and I want them to get the last word before I head out.

For 1:1 conversations

I usually let people know at the very beginning of the conversation that I have a “hard stop” at a specific time. Which 90% of the time is true. Usually another meeting. Or I have just way too much work on my plate that I need to get to.

When turning down a meeting (for now)

I wish I had more time in a day to talk to awesome people. I also wish I had more energy in a day to talk to awesome people. But unfortunately, I only have 24 hours in a day. And well, I’m an introvert. As in, I enjoy writing this blogpost you’re reading right now since 5AM in the morning than telling someone in a live conversation what I will end up writing here.

As such, if I’m interested in meeting at some point, I usually say something to the tune of: “I would love to meet, but if I do so within the next XXX weeks / months, I would have failed in my promise to the people I care about. So if you’ll allow me to be a good friend / family member / supporter of my existing projects and investments, could we revisit this in YYY weeks / months?”

Other times to save everyone’s time, since I won’t find my interest levels gravitating towards said topic, I let people know it just isn’t of interest to me in the foreseeable future, and that their luck may be better elsewhere.

When turning down an investment opportunity

This is actually something that was inspired by one of Jason Calacanis’ podcast episodes. And while there are many things I may not agree with him on, I really like the phrasing he uses to turn down founders who push back against his investment decision. And I’ve added some lines that best fit the way I talk. Which I also included this in my 99 series for investors.

“I always have to accept the possibility that I’m making a mistake. The venture business keeps me humble, but these are the benchmarks that the team and I all believe in.”

In closing

Sometimes I think it’s inevitable to appear as a jerk to some people out there. While one can try to reduce the splash damage, the truth is sometimes what you have to say may not be what the other person wants to hear or see. But as long as you hold yourself to a high degree of integrity and do so in as kind of a way as you can, I think that’s all that really matters.

Often times, I do believe it’s more important to be kind than nice. I hope the above helps.

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How to Hire Your First Executive

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Last week I had the chance to sit with the one and only Steven Rosenblatt, former President at Foursquare and the one who got Apple into the advertising business, now Founding GP at Oceans. Of the many things I could have asked, I had one burning question. Something that I also knew Steven knew like the back of his hand. Hiring executives.

Particularly, I’ve always been curious, since I’ve never done so myself, but have watched many friends and founders do it — successfully and well… its polar opposite, best described with this meme.

And in fourteen words, I asked Steven: For a first-time founder, how does one go about hiring their first executive?

To which, Steven generously shared: “There are three questions that founding CEOs need to ask themselves.”

  1. “What’s the most critical gap in the company that you need incredible leverage?” What are the holes you’re really failing at? That if you can hire, will dramatically increase the success of the company. If you don’t solve, you won’t have the right to raise the next round of funding. You don’t need to build a $100M company today; you need to build a $10M company today.
  2. “What are the things you hate to do or suck at?” A lot of CEOs optimize for the question: What kind of CEO do I want to be? But what’s more powerful, as Steven shared, is: What kind of CEO do I NOT want to be? Are you sure your superpower as a founder is aligned with what you want to do?
  3. “Is this person going to help me build the culture that I want at my company?” Sometimes someone is going to look great on paper, but the rest of the company and culture will outright reject them.

Culture, talent, and everything in between

As the saying goes, you look for the shimmer, but mine for the gold. (Yes, I made that up. But trust me, if I say it enough times, it’ll stick.) So, I’d be remiss to leave the jewel unexcavated. As such, in the double take, I asked: Tactically, how do you know if someone is a good culture fit?

“Write down the things that are important to you,” Steven shared, “What kind of team are you looking to build?” A results-oriented one or a process-oriented one? A culture of one-on-ones or not? Distributed or not? A family or a world-class orchestra?

“There’s no script for this,” elaborates Steven, “But think deeply about how you want to treat your employees, how you think about growth, and how you talk to investors. When I transitioned from Apple to Foursquare, on day one, while I was still only an advisor, Dennis invited me to an Exec meeting. I knew this was a culture of transparency. Additionally, at our weekly All-Hands, while Dennis led some of them, I would lead them as well as other execs. Something I found that our employees really really appreciated it. I went from a culture of secrets to one of transparency.

“So, to understand if someone is a good fit for your culture, after you write down what’s important to you, ask them:

  • What’s important to you? What haven’t you achieved that you want to achieve?
  • How do you do your best work? When do you feel the most motivated?
  • Why do you want to work here? Why are you excited to do so?

“These are multi-year relationships. And you need someone great to help you get to the next level. The truth is your first execs aren’t going to change; it’s who they are. And if they don’t live and breathe your values from the beginning, they won’t change their personality just for you.

“One thing I make sure to bring up is why they shouldn’t be here. ‘I’m not sure you really want to work here. Let me give you a bunch of examples of why you won’t want to be here. Let me tell why this is really, really hard.’ I then listen to how they react to it. In the early stages, you want someone who’s bought into the mission. After all, this is someone you’ll spend a lot of time with. Can you take this person out to brunch with your family?”

Whether it’s Steven’s brunch test or Stripe’s Sunday test or Netflix’s Keeper test, have a good heuristic for the type of person you want to hire.

The first 90 days

Now that you’ve hired a great candidate, I had to ask the man, “What does a great exec hire do in their first 90 days?”

There’s a saying that good things come in pairs. If I might add to that, it turns out great things come in triads. ‘Cause without skipping a beat, Steven said, “A great exec hire must do three things in their first 90 days: 1/ spend time with everyone; 2/ align with the founders, and 3/ build an action plan.”

1. Spend time with everyone

“Meet with everyone who’s at the company and really get to know them. Not just what they do at the company, but also why they choose to do what they do.”

Digging a level deeper, I asked: “So what questions do you ask your team members to really get to know them?” Steven, responded in kind, with his Rolodex of questions — a set I know I’m keeping in my 52-card deck:

  • What’s on your mind?
  • What does your day-to-day look like?
  • What inspires you?
  • And what’s holding you back? What’s stopping you from doing your best work?
  • If budget wasn’t an issue, what would you do? And what would you need to be able to get it done?

Of course, goalpost of everyone changes as your company scales. If someone is the first exec hire, talking to literally everyone makes sense. On the flip side, as Steven shared, “if you’re at a point, when you’re on a 100+ team — like a Series B company — you may not be able to talk to all 100 employees. In that case, 50-70 employees should suffice.”

2. Align with the founders

As important as it is to talk with the team, the conversations before and after the exec is hired are different only in the context that the latter goes much deeper. The best way for an exec to hit the ground running is to really understand the company’s past, present and future.

The past. “A great exec needs to understand what’s been built to date and why. What were some of the hard decisions we had to make? Where did we pivot? What did we stop doing? And what have we learned to date?

The present. “Who is using the product and who are our target customers? How are they using it? Gather as much product-related data as possible.”

The future. “Where do we think we want to be in the next 90 days? Six months? A year? Are there things that the exec would like to change? Where are we not aligned and why aren’t we?”

Within that three-month period, a great exec should have already figured out where they are going to prioritize their time. When putting it all together, a world-class exec is able to answer the question: Is the plan we want to execute on the same as the one our team is doing day-to-day? Is there any cognitive dissonance?

3. Build an action plan.

After they’ve talked to everyone, “the exec then comes back to management and lays it out. ‘Here’s where we need to get to to be fundable. I’ve talked to the employees, and here are the gaps we need to solve in the next few months. To help us get there, here are some of the hires I’m going to recruit.’

“In the prior conversations, you, the founder, have laid out that plan to fundability in the next 12 to 18 months. Does the exec agree with it? After all, the company’s KPIs are the exec’s KPIs.

“If so, the question becomes: How will the exec spend their time? What part are they owning? You hired this person to either take something off your plate or do something you hate doing or are not good or mediocre at. The exec’s job is to free up the founders’ time to do what they’re great at. So, you can focus on things that are higher leverage.”

So it got me thinking about the validity of my own question, is 90 days really the right benchmark for an exec to go from 0 to 100. Turns out, it may not be. “Given that this is your first exec hire and you’re still early, 60 days is more than enough, ” said Steven, “As you go further down the road, it’ll take more time to ramp up.” When you have a real business going on — something that’s default alive, as opposed to default dead — that’s when 60 days of an onboarding period turns to 90.

Letting go

I was also curious of the counterfactual. What if your hire goes wrong? How do you let someone go?

“Unless they’re a new hire, the day you let them go should not be the first time they’re hearing about this. Ideally, there should be no surprises that things aren’t going right. As the CEO, you should be having several frequent and transparent conversations to help them course-correct. If it’s clear that this person is not working out, move swiftly to let the person go. The longer you wait, the more damage it will cause long-term.

“It should also not be a surprise to the team when you do let them go. People often play to the lowest common denominator. Never the highest. ‘I just need to be better than the worst.’ If someone is really weak in their role, people see that. And if you don’t do anything about that person, they will set the culture and the standard for everyone else. So if you let someone go, and everyone else breathes a sigh of relief, that sets the record straight and your team can move on.”

Paul Graham and Suhail Doshi have a similar approach. If you ask your co-founders to separately think of someone who should be fired, and if they all thought of the same person, it’s probably time to let them go.

To take this a level deeper, I love the words Matt Mochary uses and recently shared on an episode of Lenny Rachitsky’s podcast. “The best way to lay someone off is for them to hear it from their manager in a one-on-one.” And before you give them the lay of the land, preface these hard conversations with: “This is going to be a difficult conversation. Are you ready?”

After they say “Yes”, then you share: “I’m letting you go. And this is why.”

After you share the why, you follow up with: “My guess is that you’re feeling a lot of emotion, anger, and sadness. Am I right?” Then actively listen to their fear and pain.

After you’ve had the conversation, don’t ask the canonical “How can I help?” But actively step in and help them find a better home. At the same time, it’s worth giving some people the space and time to process the multitude of emotions and stimuli. So, this doesn’t have to the first conversation, but most likely the second or third post-announcement.

In closing

As we wrapped up our conversation, Steven left me with these closing words. “Don’t be scared to make that first executive hire. But also, don’t rush into it. Take the time to get it right.”

He’s right. As with all great things, take the time to get it right.

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How do You Know if You Should Professionalize as an Investor?

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Last Friday, one of the greatest operators and super-connectors I know, who also moonlights as an angel investor, asked me: How do I know if I should professionalize as an investor?

Undeniably, a great question. But before I share my answer to her question, I thought it’d be best if I first elaborated on what “professionalize” means in this context. It’s a term we have used more than once here at On Deck Angels. And as a result, it has spilled over into the vocabulary I use even outside of venture. But in the context of investing, professionalize is where one would go from an amateur, part-time investor to a full-time investor. Either working at a fund, starting their own syndicate or fund, or as a full-time angel.

The thing is, to be a career startup investor, you have to be lucky. The capital required to have a seat at the poker table is high. While there are many platforms — from Republic to Wefunder to Titan Invest — that are working to democratize access, the truth, for now, still is that to access the best deals, you’re either lucky as a network leader or as a capital allocator. In other words, do you know the best and most entrepreneurial talent? And do you have a frick-ton of money?

And given that some element of luck on top of skill is table stakes, I felt the best response I could give wasn’t in the form of a statement or opinion, but in the form of five questions.

  1. Why do you invest? What compels you to continue investing?
  2. What are two positive adjectives you would use to describe your sibling*? What are two negative adjectives you would use to describe your sibling*?
    • *Or life partner, or someone you know really really well.
  3. Have you ever laid someone off and regretted it? Why did you regret it? And at point after the event did you notice your regret?
    • If not… as an investor, have you ever said no to a founder and regretted it? Why did you regret it? And at point after the event did you notice your regret?
  4. Of the five people you hang out with most, what are common traits that at least two of them have? List as many as you can.
  5. If you were to start a fund or syndicate tomorrow, what would you call it?

So before you keep reading, I would recommend pausing. And to pull out a notepad and jot your own answers down to the questions above. It’s a useful exercise I ask myself, and evidently others as well, if you’re looking to professionalize as an investor.

When you’re ready, keep reading beyond the below image, as I’ll share my rationale behind the above questions.

*Author’s Note: Effectively, I was trying to space out the questions from the rationale of why I ask them below as much as I could, so that the below text wouldn’t influence your thinking (if you plan on doing this exercise).

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So, why the five questions?

  1. Motivation – Why are you an investor? The underlying motivation matters. Are you in it for money? To pay it forward? To prove someone or some notion wrong? How fleeting is your motivation? Raising a fund is a decade-long relationship. Raising three is two-decades long of a relationship. So, the question is how deep is your motivation. Can it last multiple decades?
  2. Strengths/weaknesses – This question is adapted from Doug Leone’s. People often describe others in comparison to themselves. For example, if I say Joanna is funny, by transitive property, I believe Joanna is funnier than I am. If I say Kai is smart, I believe Kai is smarter than I am. I often find this question to be much more useful in understanding a person than just asking for their strengths and weaknesses. After all, adjectives are, by definition, comparative words.
  3. Standards – This question is a riff on Matt Mochary’s. If your answer to the question is no, then you don’t know your bar for excellence. Why does your bar matter? There’s a saying that A-players hire other A-players because they know just much it takes to win. B-players, on the other hand, know they’re not as good as A-players, but on average, still want to feel superior, so they hire C-players. A-players can stand B-players, but can’t stand C-players. So eventually, the A-players leave your company. Why does this matter for an investor? You need to be able to differentiate between an A-player and a B-player. The difference between a great founder and a good founder is a fine line, and most people miss it. If you want to have a chance at being a top decile investor, you need to know. After all, people often learn more from loss than from gain. For the second part of the question, being a great investor — or to be fair, a great anything — is all about the velocity in which you learn. Speed and direction.
  4. Deal flow – This question is a proxy of where you’re going to the majority of your early deal flow, and likely who and where you’re connected the most with. The follow up would be do you get enough quality deal flow from people with these traits. In other words, if you had the capital, are you confident you could put at least $250K to use every quarter? If not, stay a scout or raise a syndicate instead of a fund. Until you can build up to this.
  5. Legacy – Building a fund is multi-generational. Just three funds would be a 20-year relationship. And the best funds often outlive the founder(s) themselves. So the biggest question here is what kind of legacy are you trying to build? Or are you trying to build one? This legacy, founded upon your values, determines how you plan for succession and who you raise to be your firm’s next leaders.

In closing

Of course, the five questions aren’t an end-all-be-all. There’s still the ability to think through fund strategy and portfolio construction. There’s fund admin. The back office. Tech stack. Picking strategic markets where you have an unfair advantage. That said, if you can answer the above questions well, you’ll have a compelling narrative to either fundraise from LPs or join a larger fund.

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